7 TIPS FOR NEW MOMS
I am a mother of a 12th month old baby girl and OMG I was not ready for the motherhood journey. For the 41 weeks I was pregnant, I read books, Google searched, joined motherhood groups and talked to family and friends about what to expect of motherhood and I received some good advice, but I did not expect life to change completely. My daughter is a blessing to my husband and I and I wouldn’t trade this experience for the world but some folks failed to mention the time, energy, and lack of adult time you will have after having a baby. So I’m here to tell you just what to expect of motherhood.
1. You will know what love at first sight means. Once my daughter was born and I saw her for the first time, my heart melted right then and there. I never felt like that before and I will forever thank her for introducing that love at first sight moment into my life.
2. The love for your partner will grow. I loved my husband dearly prior to Olivia but after she was born my love for him grew exponentially. The fact that we made another human being together, an off spring is still beyond my wildest dreams. It just made my heart grow Even fonder for him.
3. Time is out the window. No matter how hard you plan to be on time, you will somehow be off by 30 mins to an hour. I was always an on time person prior to Olivia and I prided myself on being on time but, now even if I get up at a decent time, and lay out clothes the night before, something will happen where Olivia will have a crying fit, she will spit up and mess up your clothes and hers, or she will have an explosive pamper! One of these will definitely happen every time lol
4. Adult time is limited. The only time the hubby and I have quality time together is when Olivia is gone for the night or weekend with her grandparents or when she’s asleep. And most times, if she’s asleep we are so tired, we’re sleeping with her. You have to take the time and plan something and it doesn’t have to be extravagant but just a night with a glass of wine on the sofa will do.
5. Your wardrobe will suffer. You will definitely rename some of you clothes “mommy clothes”. These are the pieces that are stretched at the neck because baby is pulling on them, they have spit up stains that don’t come out and they may even fit a bit loose because you just want to be comfortable. Be prepared to have a section of your closet designated to mommy attire.
6. Self care. There will be many days when you don’t feel like taking care of yourself and you may skip a hair wash day or wear wrinkled clothes BUT I will tell you that the extra time you take to do these things will make you feel much better. It will be hard, but set aside at least 1-2 hours for yourself per week. It will help in the long run.
7. Postpartum depression is real. This goes hand in hand with #6 because you may feel overwhelmed and drained and just want to be alone and not be bothered with anyone, not even the baby. This is when you need to talk to someone. Postpartum is serious and it can be worked through. Find someone you trust, either professionally or family/friend that you feel comfortable talking to and take time each day and talk through your emotions. Talking will make all the difference instead of keeping things bottled inside.
These are the top 7 things that I would tell new moms to be on what to expect about motherhood. It’s truly the best thing to ever to happen to me and no matter how difficult I think it is, it’s the most rewarding position I ever had.
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