WHY I WENT NATURAL
Every time I am out and about, someone stops and asks me questions about my hair. So, I decided to post about my natural hair journey and what I have learned. I have been wearing my hair in its natural state for about 5 years now and I absolutely love it. My first perm was when I was 10 years old and when I asked my Mom why she permed my hair, she said it was because I would scream and cry every time she would do my hair and she just felt it was best to perm it. Now, let me start off by saying, I do not look down on my mom for putting a relaxer on my hair because she did what she felt was best at that time.
In 2012, just a few months after I married Jeremy, I was hearing about a lot of women choosing to stop relaxing their hair and wear it in its natural state. It intrigued me so I briefly brought it up to my Husband to see what he thought and he was all for me doing whatever I wanted to do with my hair. I continued to think about it for a few months and I don’t know exactly what month, but I decided to stop relaxing my hair and see where the journey would take me. When I was permed, I wore my hair in a ponytail about 28 days out of the month and every once in a while I would wear it down. No curls, no flat iron, just straight with a headband. So, as I kept thinking about going natural, I said to myself that maybe it would add my spice to my life LOL. Next thing I knew I vowed to not perm my hair anymore. I did not want to do a big chop because I was scared of having short hair because my hair was long my entire life. Instead, I decided to grow it out and cut the straight ends off occasionally.
As I embarked on this new chapter in my life, I realized doing simple things to my hair now was a pain in the you know what. Just to wash and detangle was a headache and there were many instances where I felt like throwing in the towel and going back to being relaxed. But, I didn’t want to give up so easily and my god sister, who had already went natural, was trying to keep me encouraged along the way. She told me to check out YouTube and watch some videos to learn how to do a few styles to my hair. I took her advice and logged onto YouTube and found Naptural85 and MahoganyCurls. Yes, they have two different textures of hair, but I didn’t know anything about curl patterns and textures. I just needed some guidance on products and styles that were simple enough for me to do. As I continued to watch their videos, I stumbled across a few other YouTubers like blakizbeautyful, My Natural Sistas, and Mini Marley which continued to inspire me and challenge me to learn about my hair.
Five years later, I am so happy that I stuck with it and kept growing my hair naturally. When I started understanding a little more about natural hair, I made a goal to myself that I wanted to grow my hair longer and healthier than when I was relaxed. When I met that goal, I was so proud of myself for sticking with it and teaching myself about curl patterns, porosity levels, and most importantly, what products work and don’t work for me. This road has been a long one, but definitely a satisfying one.
If you’re deciding whether to go natural, I encourage you to give it a try. Make sure that you do it for you and not because you think it’s trendy. Going natural affects more than your hair. It impacts every area of your life because it is a lifestyle change. You will discover things about yourself that you never knew you were there. You will gain more confidence and strength and learn how to stand in your own beauty. One thing I learned was that I was beautiful just the way I was and I learned that by first appreciating my hair type just the way it is. Not worrying about if my curls are loose or tight or 3c or 4c. I understand every woman’s hair is beautiful regardless of its pattern of curls. I will advise you to learn what works for you and however you choose to wear your curls is your decision. People tell me often how they think I should wear my hair, but I know what works for me and basically do what I want. Understand that your hair is on your head for a reason and it is up to you what you choose to do to it. People will tell you that going natural may not be for you because of the way they think your hair looks. Remember you are the boss of your life and hair and you follow your heart. There will be many nay-sayers, but you will have a ton of women standing behind you encouraging you through.
Lastly, remember that if for any reason you realize that it’s not for you, that is okay too. That doesn’t make you any less of a woman because you choose to be relaxed. That is one thing I want to get out there. We are all different and just because someone chooses to be natural or relaxed does not make them any less aware of who they are or what they stand for. Being natural doesn’t make you better than the women who are relaxed and vice versa. We as women must stand together in all our differences instead of separating ourselves because of our differences.
Until next time loves