Thanks for checking back in to Grant Chronicles. There is a topic that I wanted to talk to you about that is close to my heart and one that I had to take a journey to discover on my own. That topic is Motherly Instinct. If you are questioning or know someone that is, this post is for you.
My journey through the first year of being a mom has been a joy and the journey has taught me so much, especially about myself that I never knew before. I remember having conversations with friends who were already moms and I would mention that I didn’t know if my motherly instincts would kick in automatically because I seriously believed that I didn’t have the instinct within myself. When I found out Jeremy and I were expecting, I was super excited. I enjoyed every moment of my 41 weeks of pregnancy and once I gave brith to Olivia, reality set in and it hit me. I was a mom and it is the time to see how this all plays out. The first month of being a mom came around and it was tough, to me. Olivia would cry every evening starting at 5pm until about 8pm to which I eventually discovered was due to gas. However, during the nights she would cry, I completely felt lost. I felt the reason she was crying was because I was not doing something right. I felt as if I was failing her somehow. I had all of my family surrounding me and my Husband was helping, but it wasn’t enough to assure me that she was okay. I felt that because I was her mom, I should know what was going on and how to solve it. I constantly read blogs and talked to friends and family on ways to help me through this time of feeling inadequate and what to do with Olivia, but it wasn’t until I decided to consult with myself about what I should do that I realized that I had a motherly instinct that I kept leaving behind. I was doubting every thought that came to mind from my instinct. Instead, I was listening to others opinions which led to me not giving my motherly instinct a chance to kick in and ultimately guide me in the right direction.
I remember it was a normal day. Everything was going as usual with Olivia and it was as if a light bulb went off and something inside me clicked. Yes, I was Olivia’s mom, but I wasn’t going to know exactly what to do from day one. That was when I truly realized that parenting is a journey. When you’re pregnant and you listen to other mom’s tell you how parenting is a journey and you never learn everything right away, it doesn’t really click. It’s not until you’re holding your baby in your arms and he or she is crying at the top of their lungs and you’re at your wits end that you realize exactly what they were trying to tell you. Just like if you wanted to run a marathon. You don’t just wake up one morning and decide you’re going to run a marathon scheduled for that day. You have to train and prepare yourself. The same is with parenting. You have to take things one day at a time and ultimately you will find the course of action that works best for you and your baby. You can take into consideration the advice from others, but every baby and family is different and what may have worked for one may not work for the next.
My advice to every mom out there, whether you’re pregnant now or just gave birth, is to trust your instinct. You cannot hear yourself think if you’re surrounded by a lot of “noise”. Get to a quiet place and consult with yourself and then your spouse. Trust your gut and don’t doubt yourself. Rely on the soft voice or small urging on the inside. It is trying to guide you in the right direction and all you have to do is take the first step. Once you trust it the first time, every time after will be easier and easier. Trust me! It took me a couple months to get the hang of trusting my self, but I finally listened and it didn’t lead me astray.
if you have any suggestions for a first time mom, please leave your comments below. You just may help someone who is searching for a few answers.
Until next time loves!